Monthly Archives: October 2013

Claiming a Seat At The Diversity Table- National Coming Out Day


Today is National and International Coming Out Day for LGBT people and friends.

 Many of us have been sharing our memories of coming out , and the days before 

we came out. 

 I remember when I used to hide the “gay books” because I didn’t want people to 

know that I was gay. Then I noticed that my straight friends had the same books, 

and they didn’t care what people thought.

At the same time, I remember when I first started doing diversity training that there

were many diversity professionals who did not think LGBT people had a seat at the 

diversity table. I didn’t come out to them because I was worried they wouldn’t want 

to work with me.

So happy to be free of those fears. I no longer care what anyone thinks. And by 

being open many people have told me that they no longer were afraid or had 

negative thoughts about LGBT people because they got to know me.

I feel grateful that I no longer have to hide who I am, that I can be open, and 

honest,and that my LGBT self-esteem is high. Coming Out is a process of self-

acceptance, letting go of fear, and having faith that we’ll be okay.

We do need to remember that there are still LGBT kids being bullied and 

committing suicide, or turning to drugs and alcohol to dull the pain of 

homophobia. We also need to stay aware of the fact that LGBT people in some 

countries are in danger every day of being beaten, raped, jailed or killed and that 

there are people in the US who support those policies and even lend financial support.

We have to acknowledge the fact that transphobia needs to be eliminated and that 

it is not only too common in the non-LGBT population but it exists among LGB 

people. Everyone needs to learn,

We also have to have hope and the belief that people who really believe in and live 

diversity and inclusion will be heard throughout the world and that together we 

can stop the bullying and discrimination and bigotry against LGBT people. We have 

to stand up, speak out and be loud, and we have to be kind, and loving, and let 

people change from haters to supporters after they have the right information.

I’m also grateful that so many organizations realize that LGBT Inclusion is part of 

all inclusion and there is always seat at the diversity table.

Take a Risk for Diversity Curiosity and Cultural Intelligence

Diversity Management and Inclusion Action #3 Decide to be curious and interested in learning about other cultures. Are you willing to take a risk, observe other people’s behaviors and ask questions in appropriate ways? If you’re not interested or willing to view situations from another perspective, it won’t matter how many countries you visit, or… Continue Reading

Diversity Management-Let Go of Labels

Inclusionist Action #2  Let go of the label  Think of someone that you labeled based on another person’s comment. How did you treat that person because of that label. When you find yourself affixing a label on someone, ask yourself “what if I’m wrong.” Next time your friend or family member labels someone you haven’t… Continue Reading

Homophobia and Transphobia Are Not a Matter of Diversity and Inclusion Opinion

Supporting homophobia and/or racism, is not a “matter of opinion,” it is racism and homophobia. I believe in meeting people where they are to take them to another level and educate them in ways that are relevant to them. I’m always curious and learn when I hear different sides, opinions and perspectives on issues. However,… Continue Reading