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STRESS MANAGEMENT How To Break Through Fear in Turbulent Times Solving Problems in a High-Stress Environment Break Through Self-Doubt & Fear Make 2004 your Year of Organization Manage Stress by Stopping Obsessive or Unwanted Thoughts Stress; Control It, Change It or Let It Go! Tips for Managing Holiday Madness Modern Day Stressors: What Stress Looks Like in the 21st Century The Life Juggle: How to Find Lifework Balance
CHANGE The Questions Leaders Should Ask Themselves about Change The Top Ten Ways to Manage People through Change
RUNNING A BUSINESS Be Heard. Be Strong. Be Effective. How to Deliver Impressive Presentations Getting Started in the Speaking Business: Answers to Burning Questions What Entrepreneurs Need to Know to be Successful How to Create and Maintain Culture as You Grow Recruitment and Retention of Diverse Candidates
DIVERSITY Traits of a Diverse Organization Simma's Holiday Diversity Q and A How to Go from Eggshell Walking to Multicultural Festivity Making Are You Wasting Your Money on Diversity Training? Interview Bias: Overcoming the Silent Forces Working Against You How to Help LGBT Employees Help Your Organization Grow How to Integrate Diversity Into Your Business Strategy Diversity Benefits Organizations and Communities 10 PC Tips for Communicating with a Diverse Audience Interviewing Employees Who Stay Wage and Position Disparity Across Gender What Every Consultant Needs to Know About Diversity Consulting and Training Diversity Competency Assessment Recruitment and Retention of Diverse Candidates Understanding Diversity Dialogues Dialogue as a Communication Tool Amongst Diverse Groups of People Communicating across Generations in the Workplace Simma & Kate's Strategies for Cross-Generational Relationship Building Valuing Diversity during the Holidays
COMMUNICATION Understanding Dialogue: A Q&A on the benefits of dialogue Dialogue as a Communication Tool 10 PC Tips for Communicating with a Diverse Audience Tips for Better Communication Between Men and Women in the Workplace Understanding Diversity Dialogues Dialogue as a Communication Tool Amongst Diverse Groups of People Simma & Kate's Strategies for Cross-Generational Relationship Building
GENDER COMMUNICATION Differences in Male and Female Communication Styles Gender Communications Differences and Strategies Wage and Position Disparity across Gender Tips for Better Communication between Men and Women in the Workplace
WORK/LIFE BALANCE Life/Work Balance in the Real World New Year's Resolutions: A New Approach? Working with Loved Ones: Leverage Potential and Avoid Pitfalls Modern Day Stressors: What Stress Looks Like in the 21st Century The Life Juggle: How to Find Lifework Balance
RESTAURANT & HOSPITALITY
Are You Truly Successful?
FEAR & SELF-DOUBT |
How do you know when you have achieved success? The answers depend on who you ask. Julia Stewart, president of Applebees Restaurants and the first woman president of a publicly owned restaurant corporation said that for her professionally, it means ensuring the success of her organization. ăIts important that I develop other people and enrich their lives to help them achieve their goals. Personally, success means working hard at my marriage, and enjoying my two children, Alec and Aubrey, I had my children after I turned 40 and I love being a parent. Another measure of success f or me is that I have built and maintained friendships with 5 women who I have known for many years. We have been able to be supportive of one another despite all of our schedules and geographic differences.ä Stewart said that her definition of success and greatly changed in the last 10 years. ăI didnât have kids. I was more driven by my career and outside activities, especially my involvement as a founder of the womenâs Foodservice forum and other community organizations.ä She successfully manages to balance her time at work and with her family and friends by taking advantage of extra moments. ă I consider myself successful when I take the time to go to Barnes and Noble and read to my son Alec and be 100 percent present and then be able to make a multimillion dollar decision for my organization on the same day. One of my old mentors told me a long time ago that Life is about Grabbing Special Momentsä and I try to live my life that way on a daily basis. Alice Elliot is the president of the Elliot Group a nationwide executive search firm and Consulting organization for the Hospitality and Foodservice industry. The Elliot Conference is known and attended by senior level people throughout the Foodservice and restaurant industry. When asked for her definition of success, she replied ă For myself it is a feeling of having made a contribution, not only in my own community but in a global way. Its important to me that I touch other peoples lives and share my success with them. That is why I am socially and committed to organizations like Meals on Wheels and the Briarcliff Educational Association that provides children with tools and resources for learning. She said ăBeing married for 18 years and raising two children who are 8½ and 11 is success in my personal life. On the professional side, I have two associates at the Elliot group who have worked with me for over 13 years and the organization is like another family to me. I love what I do, but at the same time my work does not control me. I asked her what else she would like to be doing not that she has achieved so much. ăI would take more time for myself and get to know more people that I like. ä Bill Allen is the co-founder, partner, and CEO of Flemings Prime Stead House and Wine Bar presently located in Newport Beach California. Scottsdale, Arizona, and Boston, Mass. and expanding to other parts of the country. He told me that success is not just about achievement by him alone. ăIt has to be inclusive of other people, that they are the beneficiaries and sharing in the experience of success. I like being part of something that has grown and believe strongly in giving recognition to others. To be able to create wealth for people who work with me like the people who run our restaurants and the chefs is what I consider success. I am part of a restaurant concept that allows for that inclusion and would not want to work any other way.ä When asked what else he would like to do now that he is achieving his goals for success he emphatically stated ăI would not change anything. I really enjoy my personal life, I have great relationships with my friends, family and the people I work with. I have a good life and can continue helping other people.ä In order to be successful and enjoy, you have to know what it means to you and not judge yourself by other peoples standards. For some people, it may mean having strong relationships with friends, spouses, and family. For others it might mean being involved in a financially secure business, and for others it is a combination of both. Being comfortable financially can mean different things depending on how you like to live. When you do achieve your goals, it is important to give yourself credit and take time to appreciate your accomplishments before you move on to the next thing. Accept that your definition of success may change. Allow yourself to be happy with what youâve done and that will help you continue to keep growing, achieving what you want and feeling good on all levels.
Simma Lieberman works with people and organizations to create environments where people can do their best work. She specializes in diversity, gender communications, life-work balance and stress, and acquiring and retaining new customers. You may reprint these articles free of charge, on a non-exclusive basis, provided that Simma Lieberman's name and contact information are included. She would love to know that you plan to use her article(s); please contact her to let her know.
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