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STRESS MANAGEMENT How To Break Through Fear in Turbulent Times Solving Problems in a High-Stress Environment Break Through Self-Doubt & Fear Make 2004 your Year of Organization Manage Stress by Stopping Obsessive or Unwanted Thoughts Stress; Control It, Change It or Let It Go! Tips for Managing Holiday Madness Modern Day Stressors: What Stress Looks Like in the 21st Century The Life Juggle: How to Find Lifework Balance
CHANGE The Questions Leaders Should Ask Themselves about Change The Top Ten Ways to Manage People through Change
RUNNING A BUSINESS Be Heard. Be Strong. Be Effective. How to Deliver Impressive Presentations Getting Started in the Speaking Business: Answers to Burning Questions What Entrepreneurs Need to Know to be Successful How to Create and Maintain Culture as You Grow Recruitment and Retention of Diverse Candidates
DIVERSITY Traits of a Diverse Organization Simma's Holiday Diversity Q and A How to Go from Eggshell Walking to Multicultural Festivity Making Are You Wasting Your Money on Diversity Training? Interview Bias: Overcoming the Silent Forces Working Against You How to Help LGBT Employees Help Your Organization Grow How to Integrate Diversity Into Your Business Strategy Diversity Benefits Organizations and Communities 10 PC Tips for Communicating with a Diverse Audience Interviewing Employees Who Stay Wage and Position Disparity Across Gender What Every Consultant Needs to Know About Diversity Consulting and Training Diversity Competency Assessment Recruitment and Retention of Diverse Candidates Understanding Diversity Dialogues Dialogue as a Communication Tool Amongst Diverse Groups of People Communicating across Generations in the Workplace Simma & Kate's Strategies for Cross-Generational Relationship Building Valuing Diversity during the Holidays
COMMUNICATION Understanding Dialogue: A Q&A on the benefits of dialogue Dialogue as a Communication Tool 10 PC Tips for Communicating with a Diverse Audience Tips for Better Communication Between Men and Women in the Workplace Understanding Diversity Dialogues Dialogue as a Communication Tool Amongst Diverse Groups of People Simma & Kate's Strategies for Cross-Generational Relationship Building
GENDER COMMUNICATION Differences in Male and Female Communication Styles Gender Communications Differences and Strategies Wage and Position Disparity across Gender Tips for Better Communication between Men and Women in the Workplace
WORK/LIFE BALANCE Life/Work Balance in the Real World New Year's Resolutions: A New Approach? Working with Loved Ones: Leverage Potential and Avoid Pitfalls Modern Day Stressors: What Stress Looks Like in the 21st Century The Life Juggle: How to Find Lifework Balance
RESTAURANT & HOSPITALITY
Are You Truly Successful?
FEAR & SELF-DOUBT |
By Simma Lieberman. This article was originally published in Restaurant Hospitality in the March 2000 edition. Working with family members can be wonderful, but it takes a lot of work and the willingness to be flexible. David and Hiromi Vardy have owned O ChamŽ, in Berkeley, Calif., for 10 years. David is the chef and Hiromi runs the front of the house. They enjoy working together. "With all the hours we put in the restaurant, we wouldn't see enough of each other if we didn't work together. It's become more play than work for us. It took time, not now everything is clicking," said David. "As long as we keep the front and the back of the restaurant separate, we have harmony." Hiromi and David have learned to take things that happen a lot less seriously. "Sometimes we that our work problems home. But we have had to stop talking about those things at the dinner table," explained David. "We have worked at addressing those things as problems separate from our personal feelings. Also, there are times when I step over boundaries. I have learned to stop giving Hiromi unwanted free advice." The couple has three children who also spend a lot of time in the restaurant working or just doing homework. The family was put through the test last year, when their house burnt down. For nine months, all five of them lived in a one-room studio while they continued to work together successfully. After that everything else seemed easier. Nickie and Pete Zeller own Pearl, a restaurant located in California's Napa Valley. They met while they worked in another restaurant over 16 years ago. They were both involved in other relationships and became good friends for six years. In 1991, still both single, they opened a restaurant together, which they ran for six years. They eventually fell in love and got married. Their passion for the restaurant business, plus their love of good movies and food, has kept them together. "We don't argue that often anymore. We now resolve things by talking." That wasn't always easy, admits Nickie, especially early on when they were working 80 hours a week and barely making ends meet. Yet their love got them through some very tough times. Now that Pearl is doing well, their challenge has been to keep their private and work lives separate. "Pete and I have had to agree not to talk about work at times. It can be a struggle to not call work when we are off." When they are off, they don't sit around thinking of work. Instead, they make an effort to see the city and eat in other restaurants. If you're a couple working together, here are some tips:
Simma Lieberman works with people and organizations to create environments where people can do their best work. She specializes in diversity, gender communications, life-work balance and stress, and acquiring and retaining new customers. You may reprint these articles free of charge, on a non-exclusive basis, provided that Simma Lieberman's name and contact information are included. She would love to know that you plan to use her article(s); please contact her to let her know.
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